What’s mean self-improvement?
That was the first question when I started my journey.
First of all, you need to understand one thing.
When you start this journey you will have to continue it your entire life.
When you start to work at yourself, to change your mindset for the better, or to find new ways of improving your relationships and lifestyle, there will never be a more beautiful thing than observing all your own progress and the long-term self-gratitude of your achievements.
In my opinion, the moment when you start to improve yourself it’s represented by the point when enough stress has compounded on someone’s mental state until a specific momentum when the stress was too much and the glass has been broken.
That’s when my self-improvement journey started.
When my glass broke.
Everyone has their problems. Their thoughts. Their desires. Their demons.
For example, this is my first blog post and my hands still shake from time to time with emotion just thinking about how what I write here can help you, the one who read this right now.
Usually, I prefer to consider that the moment when you start to make a change in your life, is the moment when you want to stop suffering, but the problem here is that we stop from finding new ways of increasing our lives standards at the moment when we don’t feel the suffering anymore.
What we should do instead of stopping when we don’t feel the suffering anymore, is to continue until we find pleasure in doing things that are helping us in the long-term improvement process.
The majority of self-improvement preachers name this as a “ROUTINE”.
How to create your own ROUTINE?
A routine is what makes others have success.
“Tell me what are you doing on a daily basis and I will tell you how successful you are.” – Great Quote.
Our daily small actions are the pillars of our big results.
To create your routine you need to stop, take a pen, a paper and start to write.
1. What are your goals?
Your routine will depend on your goals.
If you want to change your mindset, financial state or to become stronger at a specific exercise, you’ll have to write it down.
You need to find your purpose, your reason for why you want to start your journey.
Don’t worry about what it would be, on the process you’ll adapt it after the new perspectives you’ll acquire along the way.
But what you need now is clarity.
Write down what are your reasons for changing your actual life situation.
2. What is your plan?
Once you’ve identified your goals, it’s time to create a plan of action. That means you have to set specific and measurable milestones.
How much time do you need to achieve those goals? Don’t let your pessimistic or enthusiastic point of view to decide in your place. Try to be realistic about it.
Otherwise, you’ll cut off your own legs.
Learn to make your own research about the things that are important to you and you want to achieve.
Understand what resources you need to start and then…
3. Take Action.
I don’t care about your excuses. You’re not alone.
There are thousands, millions of people who are trying day by day, every day to change their lives for the better.
What do you think makes you more special than them?
The answer is: nothing. And trust me, I don’t care who are you.
If you are in a specific place you are there because of 2 factors:
- Luck
- Your own actions
This world is not fair. I know.
But if you want to achieve success, you have to stop focusing on luck.
You can’t control your luck, but you can influence it in such a way that others will say that you had always luck.
Take action and responsibility for your own thoughts, future, and lifestyle.
That’s the only way if you want to change something.
4. Track your progress.
How do you think you’ll progress if you don’t know what you did yesterday? But in the last week or month? Should I ask you how much progress have you did last year?
I think you understand my point and if you don’t, let me make it clear.
In a business data means gold. Data for a business means ways of improving the company of achieving new targets in sales, and higher points of quality products. It means everything.
If a business/company doesn’t have data, it means that they are running blindfolded. That means at some point they’ll crash into a pillar or something.
Your goals represent the targets of your own business. Your life is your business. You’re mind, happiness and fulfillment represent your business.
If you don’t have data you’ll crash or even worst, you will be caught in a vicious circle in which you will think that you have results, but in fact, you have nothing.
This is the “matrix” concept. Thinking that you progress, but in reality, you don’t.
So, if you don’t do it daily, do it weekly or at least at the final month.
It shouldn’t take you more than 3-5 minutes daily.
But trust me is essential.
5. Find support/network.
If you are a part of a group of 5 clowns, you’ll be the 6th.
Stop trying to think about if you are starting to change, everyone should.
Yes, you are right, but you are not responsible for other people’s lives. You are responsible for yours.
If you want to read more, start exercising or even start your own business idea, then do it.
Do you want others to help you? See who is with you, who is laughing about your ideas, and who is trying to encourage or who wants to help you.
When you’ll do it you need to respect these facts:
- Keep the distance from those who laughed about your goals
- Encourage back those who encourage you and keep them next to you (It’s possible that in future they will follow you in one way or another)
- Create teams with those who want to evolve together with you
When you start to change, people around you will also begin to change.
Learn to filter people around you and eliminate energetic vampires from you’re life.
It’s hard at the beginning, but you’ll thank yourself along the process.
6. Love and reward yourself.
Look, this chaotic self-improvement industry is starting to be toxic at some points.
WE ARE HUMANS!
We want to play, have fun, to reward ourselves and that’s perfectly normal!
It’s ok to watch Netflix at the final week or after a hard and productive day. But don’t lie to yourself.
Work as hard as fuck and relax as you deserve.
You’re not a machine or a robot, you need to take a break sometimes, so take it but just after you’ve worked enough.
Don’t let for tomorrow what can you do today.
Your purpose is to make your future easier, not harder.
Think. Learn. Action.
In conclusion, if you want to start in self-improvement, respect those 6 steps for the next 6 months or 1 year and you’ll be totally changed for the better.
Good luck with your journey!
